Our good friends had a child on the same day as we did three-years-ago. Since then, each year we celebrate our children’s birthdays together with a joint birthday celebration. However, this year things are changing. We don’t believe in large parties now that our son is aware of them and our friends do. We have been invited to the big birthday bash with our son, who shares the birthday, but who will not share the spotlight at the party. Should we attend?
How to handle a joint birthday with only one celebration.
First, you are used to celebrating together and now that differences have arisen between you based on how you want to celebrate, they have forged ahead with their own plan, including you solely as a guest. You understand this, but your child may not. Three is that magical age where children really understand their birthday and the celebration. If you take your child to the party, he may not remember your past parties together, but he will remember it is his birthday too and what is going on for him? Depending on your child, you may not want to attend this party, but rather have a personal celebration that feels right for your family and provides him with birthday specialness that you feel is appropriate. Placing your child in a situation where it’s his birthday, but not his party, and you aren’t planning a party for him, may be too much for him to understand at three.
Do your own birthday thing and have fun!